Can I get AIDS by having one time Sex

Originally Posted: 
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Question: 

Hello Team, 
Yesterday I had sex with my collegue, and During the time of sex I was kissing the girl about 4-5 mins and sucking vagina around 5-10 min, later I weared condom before penetration. After the sex I took bath and washed mouth with water and wash penis with soap cleanly. I am not sure whether the girl has AIDS, but I know that she had sex with may guys in the past and his ex-boyfriend is used to take drugs. So I am bit feared that I might get AIDS (if she has). Can you please suggest me whethere there are any medicience I have to take from now to make sure I will not get infected. And please suggest me when I have to take first test and when I have to take last to get it confirmd that whether it is HIV+/-.

Is there any cure of having one time oral sex?

Answer: 

 

Hello and Thank You for Using the AIDS Vancouver Helpline as your source of HIV/AIDS related information.

First, it is important to distinguish between HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) and AIDS (Acquired ImmunoDeficiency Syndrome). AIDS is caused by prolonged infection with HIV. Once HIV infection has significantly weakened an individual's immune system to the point where they are unable to fight off opportunistic infections, that person is diagnosed as having AIDS. 

I will attempt to quantify your risk of acquiring HIV by commenting on your exposures:

1) Kissing is a no risk activity for the passing of HIV. This is because saliva is not a fluid that harbors the HIV virus.

2) Giving oral sex is considered a low risk activity. This means that this activity presents a potential for HIV transmission because they involve an exchange of body fluids, but there have only been a few reports of infection attributed to these activities. According to the US CDC, if your partner happened to be HIV+, giving her oral sex one time has a risk of 1/10,000 that the virus will be passed.

3) Protected penetration is also considered a low risk activity.

You may be interested to know that washing your mouth or penis with soap after sex does nothing to prevent the passing of HIV; this is because HIV transmission occurs inside of the body during a risky activity (such as unprotected sex and needle sharing).

It is important to note that it is not possible to quantify someone's chance of being HIV positive based on how many partners they have had in the past, or if their ex used drugs. For example, your colleague may use a condom correctly and consistently every time she has sex, which would mean that she is likely to be HIV negative. It is great to hear that you used a condom, as this is a very effective way to keep yourself HIV and STI free!

Because this is an overall low risk exposure, I do not recommend any medicine such as PEP: (Post Exposure Prophylaxis). However, we do recommend regular HIV and STI testing to everyone who is sexually active. If you haven't done so already, it may be a good idea to get tested. You can take your first HIV test 4 weeks after an exposure. Then, international testing guidelines recommend a re-test at 3 months for conclusive results.

I hope this helped to answer your questions, please feel free to call or write back if you have additional concerns. 

Sincerely,

Elyse
AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer
E-mail: helpline@aidsvancouver.org
Phone (Mon-Fri 9-4pm): (604) 696-4666
Web: www.aidsvancouver.org/helpline

Comments

Submitted by monicaf on

Hi there,  

If you had unprotected sex (even one time, although rare) with someone who is HIV+, then yes, there is a possibility that you could acquire HIV. Do you know the status of the person you had unprotected sex with?

The only way to know if you did is by getting tested. You can get tested as early as 4 weeks post exposure with a standard antibody test for very accurate results. Re-testing at 12 weeks is advised for conclusive results.

All the best,
Monica
AIDS Vancouver Helpline

Submitted by rahul shinoy (not verified) on

Hi,
I am getting married soon, and will have sex with my fiancee after marriage. I am sure that my fiancee hasnt have sex with anyone before and also i havent have sex with any one till now, so can you please let me know if i ave sex with her can anyone of us be affected by AIDS.

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Submitted by Helpline1 on

Hi there and thanks for using the AIDS Vancouver Helpline as a source for HIV/AIDS related information.

First of all, there is a difference between HIV and AIDS.  HIV = Human Immunodeficiency Virus can be passed through risky sexual activities and sharing needles.  AIDS = Acquired Immunodefiency Syndrome is caused by a prolonged HIV infection.  When an HIV infection has significantly weakened an individual's immune system to the point where it can no longer fight off opportunistic infections, that individual is diagnosed as having AIDS.

To answer your question, if neither of you have ever had sex or shared needles there is no reason to be tested for HIV.  HIV can only be acquired through risky sexual behaviour or needle sharing with an HIV positive individual.

I trust I have addressed your concern, however if you have further questions, feel free to contact us again.

In Health,

Jon,
AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer
Phone:  604.696.4666

Submitted by samy (not verified) on

Hello i know what HIV is or AIDS. But I want to know that I had a sex with a girl number of times,

and she had sex with 2 different guys before. she don't have AIDS that time ....But after having sex with 2 guys she might be infected with aids ..and now i am the 3rd one .so that may cause aids we both off ! Because I heard that having sex with more then 3,4 different partners will occur AIDS is that so?
..She never use Condom.!.i want to know please tell me ASAP .

Submitted by davidn on

Hello and thanks for the questions. Having sex with multiple partners does not mean that you will get HIV. It is the act of having Unprotected  Anal or Unprotected Vaginal Intercourse that leads to the spread of HIV.

HIV can only be transmitted from someone who is HIV Positive. 

AIDS occurs when someone living with HIV has advanced compromised health issues.

HIV stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus and AIDS stands for Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome.

The best defense against HIV and other Sexually Transmitted Infections is to always use a condom when you do not know your partners health status. 

Yours in good health,

David

AIDS Vancouver Helpline

helpline@aidsvancouver.org

604 696 4666

Submitted by JEENA (not verified) on

I met a girkl who had sex with different guys. Since i was not having condom i dindt inserted my penis in her vagina but i did massage her lower part with mine wearing underwear. What are my chances of getting HIV and also there are very less chance of her being HIV + as all the guys use condom while having sex with her.

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Submitted by Helpline1 on

Hi, 

Before answering your question, I would like to note that HIV does not differentiate between gender, social class, occupation or other social factors. The risk of a given situation is determined by the activity (such as unprotected sex) as opposed to the individuals participating.

As such, I am happy to tell you that massage or other skin-skin contact poses no risk for the transmission of HIV. In addition, using condoms consistetly and correctly does decrease the risk of HIV transmission between partners significantly. However condoms make sex safer not fail-safe, and we do encourage all sexually active individuals to opt for regular STI (including HIV) testing for their safety and the safety of their partners. Depending on the individual, this may be on an annual, biannual, or every 3-4 month basis.

All the best,

Jonathan
AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer 

Submitted by paul (not verified) on

i had sex with a married girl but her husband is using protection almost every time. But unfortunately i didnt went for protected sex and while stroking i got blood from my penis and it entered into her vigina will it cause any thing to us. we two are healthy only doesnt exposed for any hiv and all. Pls give me the answer for this

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Submitted by Helpline1 on

 

Hi there,

I’m having a bit of difficulty following your question – I’ll do my best to answer it, but if there’s any more information that you need, please don’t hesitate to ask.

It sounds to me like you had unprotected vaginal sex with blood present, which is considered a high-risk activity. Unprotected sex can put you at risk for STIs, including HIV – getting tested would be a really good idea, as that is the only way to know your status. You can talk to your health care provider about where to get tested in your area. At AIDS Vancouver, we recommend that all sexually active individuals get tested regularly for STIs on a schedule that suits your needs.

Please let us know if you have any further questions or concerns.

Best wishes,
Griffin
AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer

Submitted by ronny roy (not verified) on

i had anal sex with one girl without protection few months ago..so is there any risk after marriage in having sex with my life partner?

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Submitted by Helpline1 on

 

Hi there,

Having unprotected vaginal/anal sex would certainly bring you a higher risk of acquiring HIV. If you do not know your partner’s status and wish to confirm yours, it is ideal to get an HIV test 3 months after the exposure. According to many international guidelines, all HIV tests are conclusive at 3 months and no retest is necessary.

At AIDS Vancouver, we always encourage all sexual active individuals to make HIV and STIs testing regular- be it annually, bi-annually, or every 3-4 months. The main goal of getting tested is to get to know the general health status and to do further protection.

Please write us back at anytime for further information!

In Health,

Tina

AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer

E-mail: helpline@aidsvancouver.org

Phone (Mon-Fri 9-4pm): (604) 696-4666

Web: www.aidsvancouver.org/helpline

 

Submitted by ronit roy (not verified) on

a few months ago,i had an anal sex with a girl without protection..so,is it risky for my life partner and me after marriage in having sex?

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Submitted by helpline2 on

 

Hi there,

Having unprotected vaginal/anal sex would certainly bring you a higher risk of acquiring HIV. If you do not know your partner’s status and wish to confirm yours, it is ideal to get an HIV test 3 months after the exposure. According to many international guidelines, all HIV tests are conclusive at 3 months and no retest is necessary.

At AIDS Vancouver, we always encourage all sexual active individuals to make HIV and STIs testing regular- be it annually, bi-annually, or every 3-4 months. The main goal of getting tested is to get to know the general health status and to do further protection.

Please write us back at anytime for further information!

In Health,

Tina

AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer

E-mail: helpline@aidsvancouver.org

Phone (Mon-Fri 9-4pm): (604) 696-4666

Web: www.aidsvancouver.org/helpline

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on

I had sex with married women before me she been with 2 guys, now I am with her since 5 years and having sex with out condom, now I am getting marriage, is there any problem if i have sex with 2 women, till now we both are healthy (married women and me), can you please suggest me on this

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Submitted by Helpline1 on

Hi there,

The risk of HIV transmission determined by the activity which you engage in and unprotected vaginal or anal sex is considered a high risk activity.  You mention that you are both healthy, but the only way to know your HIV status is to get tested.  This is something that you may want to speak to your partner about and get tested together for your own knowledge.   If neither of your partners have HIV then there is no chance that you could have acquired it from either of them.

The typical antibody test has a window period of 12 weeks post-exposure so if the two of you have only been with each other in the last 12 weeks then you can get tested right away and your results can be considered conclusive.  However, if you are still engaged in sexual activity with multiple partners then you will have to test after a 12 week period since the last time you had sex with someone else.

Here at AIDS Vancouver we suggest that all sexually active individuals opt to include regular STI tests (including HIV) into their sexual health care routine for your own safety and the safety of your partners.  This can be done annually, bi-annually, or every 3-4 months depending on your preferences or needs.

In Health,
Cameron
AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer
E-mail: helpline@aidsvancouver.org
Phone (Mon-Fri 9am-4pm): (604) 696-4666
Web: www.aidsvancouver.org/helpline

Submitted by Raj (not verified) on

Dear Sir/Madam
Last week i had n unprotective sex with a lady. But soon after inserting inside i was worried of infection of STDs or HIVs and withdrawn my penis and washed off thoroughly with dettol soap. What is the percentage of getting infected if she is HIV positive? Cant wait 3 long month to get tested. Getting anxious.

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Submitted by helpline2 on

Hello,

Unprotected vaginal or anal sex is a high risk activity for the transmission of HIV and other STIs. However, even if she is HIV positive the chance of acquiring HIV from a single encounter is fairly low (though still possible). 

I'd like to note that washing your genitals with soap does not prevent HIV or any other STIs. In the future using a condom is the best way to protect yourself and your partner. 

You do not need to wait 3 months to get tested, but retesting at 3 months is necessary to get a conclusive result. Testing with an HIV antibody test 4 weeks after a possible exposure will provide you with a strong indicator of your status. Antibody tests are the most common type of HIV test offered in Canada, but you can call your local health clinic or lab and ask if they offer a PCR test or a 4th generation EIA (aka a Duo or Combo test). These tests can provide you with a good indicator of your status even prior to 4 weeks.

In the meantime, while you are waiting to test or waiting for your results, please remember that acquiring HIV from a single encoutner is fairly unlikely. In times of stress I find it is helpful to eat well, exercise, sleep well, and spend time with family and friends. Staying relaxed and healthy will help pass the time until you receive the results. If anxiety about HIV continues to negatively impact your life I recommend speaking with a doctor or perhaps a therapist. If you have any other concerns please feel free to respond to this comment.

Allison

AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer

Submitted by rahul (not verified) on

hi, i had a sex with one young girl wearing condom,but what i was wearing was bit loose, i did like that only,when i finished condom was in her vagina only.i am not sure that i kept my penis in her vagina.my question is what are the chances for AIDS if do it for 10 mins.

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Submitted by Helpline1 on

Hello Rahul,

First of all ,there are differences between HIV and AIDS.

HIV stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus and this can be passed between an HIV positive individual to an HIV negative individual.
AIDS stands for Acute Immunodeficiency Syndromes, and this is caused by prolonged infection with HIV; thus no one can "get" AIDS.

Practicing safer sex/protected sex (with condom) is still the best way to protect you and your partner(s) from many sexually transmitted infections (STIs). As long as a condom is used correctly, and there is no breakage or slipping off of the condom, there is no way the virus or bacteria can go through latex or polyurethane.

Although I am not so clear about the situation you described, if the condom was not on your penis, you were in fact engaged in unprotected sex. As testing is the only way to know one's HIV status, I would strongly encourage you to be tested.
Being tested at/after 3 months will give you a conclusive result, with up to 95% of infections being detectable within 4-6 weeks.

Hopefully your question is answered.
If you have any other questions, please feel free to write us back.

Stay healthy and keep smiling,
Yohiko
AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on

Hi. i am having little bit (not deep)homo sex with two guys i am sure they are not affected HIV.now i would clarified i am affect AIDS or not?

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Submitted by helpline2 on

Hi there,

Thank you for using the AIDS Vancouver Online Helpline as your source of HIV-related information.

I'd like to start by quickly clarifying some terms. HIV stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus, and it is transmitted through unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse, and sharing needles. AIDS stands for Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome. AIDS is not transmitted person-to-person; you cannot pass a syndrome to another person. AIDS is the term for when someone is HIV-positive, and their CD4 count goes below 200.

If you are having unprotected penetrative sex, regardless of how deep, there is a risk for HIV transmission, as well as a risk for other STIs. At AIDS Vancouver, we encourage all sexually active individuals to get tested regularly for STIs, including HIV. Using condoms is the best way to protect yourself and your partners. Getting tested is the only way to be certain of your status, and talking to your partners about STI status and getting tested might be a really good idea, if you feel like that could work for you. Those conversations are sometimes difficult to initiate, but communicating openly is one of the best ways to be proactive with regards to your sexual health.

I hope I've been able to address your concerns -- please let us know if you have any further questions.

Best wishes,
Griffin
AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer

Submitted by siddrath (not verified) on

hi, i have a question for u...the thing is im not having a girl friend at present..but im very much intrested in sex...soo now im planing to have sex with a hifi call girl..this is the first time..and can u plss give me tips how to protect myself..from HIV or other STIs..

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Submitted by Helpline1 on

Hi Siddarth,

Using a condom at all times during your sexual encounter will greatly reduce the risk of the passing of HIV and other STIs. For example, protected vaginal/anal sex is considered a low risk activity for the passing of HIV. 

You may be interested to know that sex workers actually use condoms more frequently than the general population and get tested for STI's more regularly as well. You may also want to have an honest and open conversation with your partner about when the last time they got tested was and what for, etc.

You should be congratulated for being proactive about your sexual health and asking what are the best ways you can protect yourself. 

Take Care,

Elyse

AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer

Submitted by xyz (not verified) on

if we fuck HIV person we will get HIV but hiv come with unprotected sex. My question is that a girl or boy get hiv for how many unprotected sex with how many different people

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Submitted by Helpline1 on

Hi xyz,

Having unprotected sex one time with an HIV positive individual does not guarantee that you will acquire HIV. 

However, the probability of transmission can increase, especially if the HIV partner has a high viral load, or if either partners have an existing STI. 

Because of these factors, there is no "magic number" of how many people someone has to have unprotected sex with before they aquire HIV.

The best way to protect yourself against HIV and other STI's is to use a condom every time you have sex. 

All the Best,

Elyse

AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer

 

Submitted by bramhi (not verified) on

Hi ,

I am married and had sex with 2 different girls in the span of 4 months, I had sex without any protection .Will that effect to Aids.

Submitted by davidn on

Hello,

 

As you can see from our website unprotected vaginal or anal sex is considered high risk for HIV and STI exposure. I cant let you know if your exposures will result in contracting HIV or STI'; I don't know your partners or situations. We encourage everyone to discuss sexual health with their partners. Wearing a condom is a good way to protect yourself and your partner against STI's and HIV. I suggest getting tested for HIV and STI's, your physician can administer these test.

Best regards,

Jordan - AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer 

Submitted by raj (not verified) on

sir pls advise to me .....i had done sex with call girl only one time without condom so i am affected hiv aids..... what can i do sir plz reply as fast as i am much trouble

Submitted by davidn on

Hello,

It's important to note HIV does not discriminate against a persons age, race, sexual orientation or profession. It's the activity you engage in that's risky regardless of the person. I don't know if this will result in you being HIV positive or not; I suggest getting a HIV test and also screen for other STIs. You and your physican can discuss results after you have gone for testing. We also recommend everyone to protect themselves and their partners against HIV and STI's by using condoms.

Best regards,

Jordan-AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer

Submitted by pinky (not verified) on

i have done unprotected sex with 4 guys who dont have HIV pls let me knw is der any chance of getting HIV to me.... dis days am getting rashes around my annal an ASS is this the symptom of HIV????

Submitted by davidn on

Hello, having unprotected anal intercourse with multiple partners is considered a high risk activity for exposure. However if none of these people have HIV you could not have the virus passed to you.

The important thing to note is that you cannot be sure of these multiple partners health status and they themselves may not know that they have any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV.

It is our recommendation that you have testing done for all sexually transmitted infections, including HIV and that for the health and safety of your partners and your self you use condoms for all intercourse encounters.

The rashes you are currently experiencing may be a sign of many things and it is important to see a health care provider if they continue or worsen.

Good luck with your testing,

David.

Submitted by kumar (not verified) on

hello team,
i had protected sex with unknown and later after few weeks i had sex with my girl without a condom will it cause any problem to us?

thanks in advance

Submitted by davidn on

Hello, having more than one sexual partner is considered a risk for exposure to sexually transmitted infections and we at the Helpline do recommend that if you are going to have multiple sexual partners that you always use protection for intercourse.

While the risk of HIV is low, if the condoms were used properly and were not expired, did not break or did not come off while you were insertive, this is the best protection against all sexually transmitted infections including HIV.

We also recommend that all sexually active persons, regularly test for all sexually transmitted infections including HIV. Perhaps you and your girlfriend can have your testing done together.

David.


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